The negative stigma of mental illness is really concerning since so many people struggle with a mental illness of some sort. People need to wake up about this and quit blowing off mental illness like it’s nothing to worry about. I have come across so many people who just don’t understand how difficult it is to live and deal with a mental illness every single day. I just don’t get how people can tell someone with a mental illness that they’re just looking for “attention” or to just “get over it.” Would you tell someone who has cancer to stop looking for “attention” and to just “get over it?” No, you probably wouldn’t because you would be considered a cold-hearted uncaring bastard. I don’t know how it should be any different with someone who is suffering from a mental illness. People are killing themselves due to so many people misunderstanding their problems. People who want to just call those with mental disorders “whiny” or “crybabies” are the cause of this. This is on YOU. If you tell someone they are just being whiny or to stop attention-seeking or to just get over it, and the person kills themselves because they feel like they don’t belong in a world where they are constantly misunderstood, then I hope you’re content with being responsible for that. It disgusts me that people can deliberately do this knowing it will upset the person even further, and could even push the person over the edge. The person’s body may not be physically sick, but their mind is. And that’s not any less serious than any other illness. This negative stigma towards mental illness has got to rectified. PEOPLE NEED TO CHANGE. Get over your ignorant beliefs that mental illnesses are just an excuse to be whiny or an attention-seeking thing. They’re not. They’re serious and should be taken that way. So many people need help and they can’t get it because of this problem. Something needs to be done. This is getting out of hand.
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We all deal with the feeling of wanting to give up on recovery. The process takes a long time and we think that we’ll never get there. So we find ourselves wanting to just throw in the towel. We find ourselves wanting to go back to our destructive selves again because that seems easier than getting better. I know I’ve found myself wanting to go back to being destructive recently, and this time, be even more destructive. I felt that if I’m not making any progress towards getting better, then I was just going to have fun destroying myself because I need something to help suppress this pain I can’t seem to escape. This pain is deep within my soul tearing me apart every time I become aware of it again. You try to run from it, but you can’t. Your demons and the pain you feel deep within you tackles you repeatedly. You try to recover but you make no headway. You’re really trying, yet you see no progress. So, you figure…why not just give up? What’s the point in getting better anyways? You find comfort in destroying yourself so why not continue living this way? The thing is, that’s your demons talking and telling you these lies. They are constantly trying to convince you that you aren’t worth recovering. But you are. Living a life filled with pain and turning to destructive things to cope isn’t a life at all. It’s hardly a life. You spend your days just trying to make it through each day. Life isn’t meant to be lived like that. You’re young, you have an entire life ahead of you. Don’t spend your days praying for death to come to you. When it’s your time to leave this earth, you will. Until then, you should be living your life to it’s fullest. 🙂
Your life is falling apart, and you feel there’s nothing you can do to stop it. You want to just give up. You can’t go on anymore. Life has become too painful for you. The pills and alcohol are calling your name….or however you might choose to do it. You feel unwanted and horribly alone. You believe that no one cares about you because people treat you like you’re invisible. You scream for help, but no one answers your cries. So you write that note… Then you down that bottle of pills… You’ve tried to end it many times before, but they’ve all failed. This time though, it finally works. You’re dead.
Life can be very cruel and painful. We all know that. Life can be horribly unbearable sometimes. But killing yourself isn’t the answer. That won’t solve anything. Your problems are temporary, remember that. Your circumstance won’t always be the way they are. Regardless of how shitty things are right now, IT DOES GET BETTER. You just have to give it time. Things will eventually look up. I know, that sounds like a bunch of bullshit at the moment. You’re asking “I’ve been waiting for things to get better for a long time now. When the hell are things going to get better?” Well… here’s the thing, you have to WANT things to get better. If you don’t want things to get better, they won’t. In fact, things may get worse. You have to keep a positive attitude instead of believing that things will never get better. No matter what your mind tells you, you have to believe otherwise. Our minds viciously attack us and try to get us to do things we would never do otherwise, like attempt suicide. We can overcome our minds and win this battle we’re all secretly fighting. We may look fine on the outside, but inside we’re screaming, we’re dying, we’re crying… So be kind, you never know what someone is dealing with.
One final thought: You can love life again. You may hate life right now, but you won’t always feel that way. One day, you’ll look back and think, “Damn, I’m so fucking glad I didn’t give up.” 🙂
The worst part about having a mental illness is the voices in your head that tell you terrible things. But you have to fight against these voices and not listen to them. You have to fight against the demons in your head. They will try to constantly drown you.
You have fight against the voices telling you to grab that razor and
slash your wrists.
You have to fight against the voices telling you to kill yourself.
You have to fight against the voices telling you to grab that bottle of alcohol and down it.
You have to fight against the voices telling you to grab that bottle of pills and swallow all of them.
You have to fight against the voices telling you to take those drugs.
You have to fight against the voices of depression telling you that you deserve to be sad.
You have to fight against the voices of your eating disorder telling you to binge, starve, or purge.
Don’t listen to any of these voices! You have to be strong and resist them. That’s what recovery is all about. Resisting what your disorder/addiction is telling you. You don’t deserve to live with these self-destructive voices inside your head. You deserve to live a life without these voices constantly trying to destroy you. Don’t let the voices drown you. Be positive and tell those negative voices to go to hell! 🙂
I believe that everyone can overcome the voices of their disorder/addiction. You can do this. Just keep going, and you’ll eventually get there. ❤
If you’re in school or college, chances are you’ll have to give some type of presentation in front of the class at some point during the semester. For most people, this causes major anxiety. Speaking in front of an audience is nerve-wracking for some people. While giving a presentation, many people experience some uncomfortable symptoms. According to eHow, “Anxiety during an oral presentation may cause heart palpitations, sweating, hyperventilating, shaking, stuttering, forgetfulness, dry mouth, dizziness, faintness, nausea and even may cause you to faint.” However, there are several things you can do to prevent these symptoms from occurring.
Personally, speaking in front of an audience giving a presentation is extremely nerve-wracking for me. During this semester, I have to give several presentations in 3 of my classes, which is killing my anxiety. For those of us that have bad anxiety about speaking in front of people to give a presentation, here are a couple things you can do to help you stay calm during a presentation:
1) Use note cards. Writing down the important points of your presentation will help reduce your anxiety. When you feel anxious, you tend to forget what you want to say causing you to stutter, which is embarrassing. Having the note cards will help you remember what you want to say and keep you on topic.
2) Take deep breaths. Before you do your presentation, take some deep breaths. Deep breathing will help calm your nerves down. If you start to feel anxious during the presentation, take some deep breaths. This will help keep you from experiencing any symptoms of anxiety.
3) Focus on your presentation. Do not focus on your anxiety. Focusing on the fact that you’re anxious is not going to help you any. In fact, when you think about how anxious you are, you will only feel that much worse. So, stay focused on your presentation and you’ll do much better.
4) Don’t worry about making a mistake during your presentation. Trying to be perfect will increase your level of anxiety. No one is going to boo you off the stage or make fun of you if you screw up a little. Chances are, no one will even notice. Others will accept the fact that we’re not perfect, and do not expect perfection. So just do your best. 🙂
5) Think positive. Thinking negatively before you present your presentation will only help increase your anxiety. Think positive thoughts and tell yourself you can do this and that you can get through this. Positive thinking is very helpful when you’re trying to do something you fear.
So you’re at a point in your recovery where it isn’t going very well. We all deal with this part during recovery, so don’t feel like a failure just because your recovery is going shitty. During this point you may find yourself wanting to crawl back to that razor, or find yourself wanting to down a bottle of pills, or wanting to get shitfaced drunk again because you’re beginning to crave it, or you feel the pain creeping back up on you, so you fall back into your addiction. But don’t let a relapse cause you to think you’re a failure and that you’re never going to get better. If you don’t try recovery, you won’t ever achieve it. Recovery is something you have to want. If you don’t want it, then you won’t get it. It’s simple logic. Recovery is also something that takes a lot of time. You can’t just wake up one day fully recovered. I think if that were possible, it wouldn’t be hell to recover from your addictions and/or mental illness. And I think if it were possible to just jump out of bed one day and be completely recovered, many of us wouldn’t still be trudging along on our paths trying to recover.
Everyday, we come across things that test our recovery, shit happens to us that makes us want to go running back to our comfort zone — the arms of our lovely addictions/mental illnesses. But to have the strength to resist falling back into the arms of your addiction or illness is true recovery. When you can resist the voices calling you to come back to the “comforting” arms of your illness/addiction, that is when you’ll know you’ve been successful at recovery. However, you should be aware that when you’ve struggled with a mental illness/addiction in the past, it will haunt you and it’ll be something you’ll have to combat your entire life. You don’t just forget what you went through once you’re recovered.
So, to tie the knot on this post, as Winston Churchill said it, “When you’re going through hell, keep going.”
I’m currently in college and I know from first hand experience that dealing with mental illness during the semester is very difficult. I have experienced a number of awful feelings and breakdowns during my semesters in college, and back when I was in high school too. My mental illness effects my ability to perform well on my school work, which hurts my grades. School really tests my recovery sometimes, but I have to remind myself that I can handle what’s thrown at me, and that this is stepping block that will make my future successful. Here are some things to do though to maintain your recovery during the school year:
1. Have a relapse prevention plan. Talk to your counselor and make a relapse prevention plan incase you feel like your symptoms are coming back. Also, if a crisis arises, please make sure you know to go seek help from your high school guidance counselor or if you’re in college, your campus counseling center.
2. Manage your time. Staying on schedule can be difficult, but the best way to keep your stress levels down is to not get overwhelmed. You need to have a balance between your social life and your academics. It’s important. But more importantly, make sure you set some time aside for yourself!
3. Take care of yourself physically. Keeping a physical wellbeing is important because when we aren’t feeling good physically, it can take a toll on your mental health. Set up an exercise plan and follow it. Yoga is a great option for both physical and mental wellbeing. Make sure you’re eating a balanced diet because what you eat depends on how you feel. Certain foods can make you feel yucky and sluggish. Finally, the most important part of taking care of yourself: GET ENOUGH SLEEP. Sleep is very important to your body recovering from the day.
4. Get involved at your school. Find a club you like and get involved in it. It will keep your mind off some things and you can just relax for awhile and have some fun. Maybe you might meet some new people. 🙂
5. Find a teacher/professor, pastor, counselor, friend, or someone you trust to help support you and help you maintain your recovery. In my case, I have an amazing professor at my college that helps me through my worst days. I’m not sure I’d still be here if it weren’t for my English professor. Finding an amazing, caring, helpful person could be the key to helping you maintain your recovery during the stressful months of the school year.